https://www.thebetterliving.org/ 2020-01-07 monthly 1.0 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/meaning-beyond-success-figure-of-light-in-the-cosmos-1600.webp The Better Living: meaning beyond success A seated figure of light at the centre of a vast violet cosmos, an image of meaning and inner stillness found beyond outward success https://www.thebetterliving.org/insights.html 2020-01-07 monthly 0.9 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/reflections-on-meaning-and-the-inner-life-nebula-1600.webp Reflections: things I have come to see A luminous violet and blue nebula opening across deep space, the vastness of the inner life these reflections turn toward https://www.thebetterliving.org/about.html 2020-01-07 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/andrea-sait-the-better-living-starfield-1600.webp About Andrea Sait, founder of The Better Living A wide field of stars and pale nebula light, the quiet vastness behind The Better Living https://www.thebetterliving.org/where-does-the-meaning-go.html 2020-01-07 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/where-does-the-meaning-go-a-figure-still-enough-to-receive-1600.webp Where does the meaning go? A figure seated in stillness seen from behind, wide rings of amber light opening on either side and a luminous centre at the back, a person present enough for life to actually arrive https://www.thebetterliving.org/nothing-here-is-separate.html 2019-10-27 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/nothing-here-is-separate-luminous-butterflies-rising-together-1600.webp Nothing here is separate Luminous blue butterflies rising together through a dark forest at night, the connections that are invisible from inside and obvious from further away https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-depth-and-vastness-of-life.html 2019-07-30 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-depth-and-vastness-of-life-a-wide-horizon-at-sunset-1600.webp The depth and vastness of life Balanced stone cairns silhouetted against a burning sunset over still open water, the directions a life can grow in that nothing ever measures https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-vastness-we-keep-looking-away-from.html 2019-03-17 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-vastness-we-keep-looking-away-from-a-galaxy-across-the-night-sky-1600.webp The vastness we keep looking away from A vast galaxy of gold and blue starlight spread across the night sky, the scale we glance at for four seconds and then go back indoors https://www.thebetterliving.org/why-we-want-to-be-understood.html 2018-12-09 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/why-we-want-to-be-understood-balanced-stones-on-still-water-1600.webp Why we want to be understood A cairn of dark stones balanced on the mirror-still surface of a river, the longing to be seen exactly as one actually is https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-woman-nobody-sees.html 2018-09-23 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-woman-nobody-sees-a-flower-growing-through-cracked-concrete-1600.webp The woman nobody sees A single violet flower growing up through a crack in a wide expanse of grey concrete, an inner life that keeps going where nothing has been made room for it https://www.thebetterliving.org/we-can-only-give-what-we-have.html 2018-07-01 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/we-can-only-give-what-we-have-light-passing-between-two-hands-1600.webp We can only give what we have Warm light passing between one pair of hands and another in the dark, what is actually transmitted underneath every act of giving https://www.thebetterliving.org/accepting-yourself-is-the-hardest-part.html 2018-04-22 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/accepting-yourself-is-the-hardest-part-a-white-flower-in-a-stone-wall-1600.webp Accepting yourself is the hardest part A single white flower growing out of an old stone wall in soft mist, accepting what is actually there rather than working on a better version of it https://www.thebetterliving.org/are-you-your-own-friend.html 2018-02-11 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/are-you-your-own-friend-hands-cradling-a-warm-light-1600.webp Are you your own friend? Two open hands cradling a small warm light in the dark, the difficult practice of turning ordinary kindness towards oneself https://www.thebetterliving.org/we-are-the-best-and-we-are-the-worst.html 2017-12-03 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/we-are-the-best-and-we-are-the-worst-a-dandelion-whole-and-gone-to-seed-1600.webp We are the best and we are the worst A golden dandelion beside one gone entirely to seed, two complete states of the same thing existing at once in the same place https://www.thebetterliving.org/every-good-has-a-bad-we-cannot-see.html 2017-09-10 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/every-good-has-a-bad-we-cannot-see-light-and-darkness-in-one-nebula-1600.webp Every good has a bad we cannot see A green and blue nebula fading gradually into surrounding darkness, the two halves of every truth that only ever look like one from where we stand https://www.thebetterliving.org/it-takes-courage-to-see-what-is-actually-there.html 2017-06-25 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/it-takes-courage-to-see-what-is-actually-there-white-vortex-opening-from-darkness-1600.webp It takes courage to see what is actually there A brilliant white and teal cosmic vortex opening outward from darkness, seeing a thing exactly as it is rather than as our own version of it https://www.thebetterliving.org/do-not-say-it-is-fine-when-it-is-not-fine.html 2017-04-02 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/do-not-say-it-is-fine-when-it-is-not-fine-copper-nebula-in-deep-space-1600.webp Do not say it is fine when it is not fine A copper and amber nebula burning slowly in deep space, the one thing a person already knows and has agreed not to look at https://www.thebetterliving.org/living-in-your-own-truth.html 2017-01-15 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/living-in-your-own-truth-a-butterfly-resting-in-unwatched-light-1600.webp Living in your own truth An orange butterfly resting open-winged on a green leaf in soft, unwatched light, the life a person would live if nobody could ever be told about it https://www.thebetterliving.org/nobody-would-believe-you-are-struggling.html 2016-11-06 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/nobody-would-believe-you-are-struggling-golden-nebula-burning-in-the-dark-1600.webp Nobody would believe you are struggling A great golden nebula burning at the heart of a dark sky, an admired life with something quite different happening inside it https://www.thebetterliving.org/why-the-worst-year-was-the-necessary-one.html 2016-08-20 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/why-the-worst-year-was-the-necessary-one-caterpillar-chrysalis-and-butterfly-1600.webp Why the worst year was the necessary one A caterpillar, a closed chrysalis and an opened butterfly on a single stem, the painful passage that turns out to have been the necessary one https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-restlessness-is-telling-you-something.html 2016-06-12 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-restlessness-is-telling-you-something-stones-balanced-beside-moving-water-1600.webp The restlessness is telling you something A cairn of river stones balanced beside fast moving water, restlessness that is a signal to be followed rather than a fault to be corrected https://www.thebetterliving.org/silence-is-not-empty.html 2016-03-27 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/silence-is-not-empty-a-stone-cairn-against-sea-and-sky-1600.webp Silence is not empty A tall cairn of smooth stones standing quietly against an open sea and a pale sky, silence that is full rather than absent https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-balance-between-the-inner-and-the-outer.html 2016-01-24 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-balance-between-the-inner-and-the-outer-a-butterfly-on-balanced-stones-1600.webp The balance between the inner and the outer A butterfly resting on a long flat stone balanced perfectly on a smaller one, the balance between the outer life and the inner one https://www.thebetterliving.org/what-if-you-already-have-everything.html 2015-11-29 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/what-if-you-already-have-everything-a-stone-shell-with-fire-inside-1600.webp What if you already have everything? A weathered stone shell cracked open to reveal a warm fire already burning inside it, everything needed turning out to have been present the whole time https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-commitments-we-make-without-noticing.html 2015-09-20 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-commitments-we-make-without-noticing-nebula-half-hidden-in-shadow-1600.webp The commitments we make without noticing A cyan nebula half revealed and half lost in shadow, the obligations that accumulate one small agreement at a time until they are the shape of a life https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-wanting-that-has-no-end.html 2015-07-05 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-wanting-that-has-no-end-red-vortex-receding-into-darkness-1600.webp The wanting that has no end A ring of red cosmic light receding endlessly into darkness, a finish line that moves again every single time it is reached https://www.thebetterliving.org/we-do-not-own-anything.html 2015-04-19 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/we-do-not-own-anything-streaks-of-light-passing-through-the-dark-1600.webp We do not own anything Long streaks of blue light passing through the dark and away, everything we handle for a while and leave behind exactly as we found it https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-race-we-never-agreed-to-run.html 2015-02-08 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-race-we-never-agreed-to-run-light-streaming-past-at-speed-1600.webp The race we never agreed to run Ribbons of blue light streaming past at speed through darkness, everything near enough to touch blurred by the pace of an unexamined life https://www.thebetterliving.org/where-do-our-thoughts-come-from.html 2014-12-14 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/where-do-our-thoughts-come-from-a-butterfly-of-fire-in-the-dark-1600.webp Where do our thoughts come from? A butterfly formed of sparks and fire rising out of complete darkness, a thought that arrives whole from somewhere the mind cannot locate https://www.thebetterliving.org/intelligence-is-not-the-same-as-knowing.html 2014-09-07 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/intelligence-is-not-the-same-as-knowing-deep-field-of-stars-in-violet-dust-1600.webp Intelligence is not the same as knowing A deep field of countless stars scattered through violet interstellar dust, the something that answers when all the available information runs out https://www.thebetterliving.org/trying-to-walk-someone-elses-path.html 2014-06-22 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/trying-to-walk-someone-elses-path-a-bird-alone-on-a-weathered-post-1600.webp Trying to walk someone else's path A small grey bird resting alone on a weathered post in soft light, the path that is yours and cannot be found in anybody else's account of theirs https://www.thebetterliving.org/knowledge-does-not-come-from-books.html 2014-03-30 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/knowledge-does-not-come-from-books-a-galaxy-within-a-human-profile-1600.webp Knowledge does not come from books A spiral galaxy turning inside the outline of a human profile, knowledge that was already there before any book confirmed or contradicted it https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-one-story-you-have-never-read.html 2014-01-26 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-one-story-you-have-never-read-an-open-book-in-lamplight-1600.webp The one story you have never read A small glass jar resting on the pages of an open book in warm lamplight, the one life story a person has full access to and has never opened https://www.thebetterliving.org/looking-is-not-seeing.html 2013-11-24 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/looking-is-not-seeing-a-tunnel-of-light-opening-into-space-1600.webp Looking is not seeing A tunnel of pale gold and green light opening deep into space, the difference between looking at something and actually seeing it https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-blindness-we-choose.html 2013-09-15 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-blindness-we-choose-violet-cosmic-vortex-around-a-dark-centre-1600.webp The blindness we choose A violet and blue cosmic vortex turning slowly around a dark centre, the thing kept unseen for years while sitting in plain view https://www.thebetterliving.org/life-is-not-in-the-past-or-the-future.html 2013-06-30 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/life-is-not-in-the-past-or-the-future-ember-red-nebula-burning-quietly-1600.webp Life is not in the past or the future An ember-red nebula burning quietly in the dark, the present moment which is the only place where anything has ever actually happened https://www.thebetterliving.org/how-many-moments-were-you-actually-here-for.html 2013-04-14 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/how-many-moments-were-you-actually-here-for-hourglass-beside-a-clock-1600.webp How many moments were you actually here for? An hourglass running quietly beside a pale clock face, a whole lifetime measured against the handful of hours anybody was genuinely present for https://www.thebetterliving.org/we-are-moving-in-our-sleep.html 2013-02-03 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/we-are-moving-in-our-sleep-a-waking-figure-among-planets-and-stars-1600.webp We are moving in our sleep A seated figure lit from within against a field of distant planets and stars, the difference between being conscious of an action and being awake inside it https://www.thebetterliving.org/guilt-and-fear-are-like-termites.html 2012-12-23 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/guilt-and-fear-are-like-termites-green-shoot-in-the-rings-of-a-tree-1600.webp Guilt and fear are like termites A small green shoot rising from the centre of the growth rings of a felled tree, what is quietly eaten away from inside while the outside looks sound https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-fear-we-are-taught-before-we-can-walk.html 2012-10-14 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-fear-we-are-taught-before-we-can-walk-emerald-nebula-with-dark-hollows-1600.webp The fear we are taught before we can walk An emerald nebula glowing around wide hollows of absolute darkness, the fear handed to every child before they are old enough to examine it https://www.thebetterliving.org/what-we-do-to-a-feeling-when-we-hold-it-down.html 2012-07-08 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/what-we-do-to-a-feeling-when-we-hold-it-down-magenta-vortex-under-pressure-1600.webp What we do to a feeling when we hold it down A wide magenta vortex of light circling an empty black centre, the pressure that builds quietly under every feeling that is held down https://www.thebetterliving.org/thinking-is-not-worrying.html 2012-04-22 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/thinking-is-not-worrying-streams-of-light-passing-through-a-seated-figure-1600.webp Thinking is not worrying Streams of coloured light passing through and beyond a seated figure, thought that travels somewhere as against worry that turns in the same place https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-mind-is-a-baby.html 2012-02-12 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-mind-is-a-baby-light-radiating-from-a-human-head-1600.webp The mind is a baby Light radiating outward from the silhouette of a human head against darkness, a mind that is curious about everything and frightened of most of it https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-part-of-the-heart-that-closes.html 2011-12-04 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-part-of-the-heart-that-closes-a-lone-green-nebula-1600.webp The part of the heart that closes A single green nebula holding its light alone in an enormous dark sky, the part of a heart that shuts after being hurt and will not open again https://www.thebetterliving.org/nobody-crossed-the-line-we-kept-moving-it.html 2011-09-11 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/nobody-crossed-the-line-we-kept-moving-it-a-hand-and-its-shadow-1600.webp Nobody crossed the line. We kept moving it. A hand and its own shadow reaching towards each other across pale empty ground, a boundary moved back so gradually that nobody noticed it going https://www.thebetterliving.org/where-does-attachment-begin.html 2011-06-05 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/where-does-attachment-begin-currents-of-pale-blue-light-1600.webp Where does attachment begin? Currents of pale blue light drifting slowly through deep space, attachment beginning quietly in the small word mine https://www.thebetterliving.org/nobody-hurt-you-your-expectation-did.html 2011-03-20 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/nobody-hurt-you-your-expectation-did-drifting-lights-in-deep-blue-1600.webp Nobody hurt you. Your expectation did. Soft points of light drifting through deep blue darkness, silent expectations gathering weight until they become a debt somebody never agreed to https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-apple-tree-and-the-mango.html 2011-01-30 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-apple-tree-and-the-mango-light-breaking-over-a-green-valley-1600.webp The apple tree and the mango Sunlight breaking over a wide green valley with a single path winding through it, seeing a thing as it actually is rather than as we wish it were https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-questions-that-are-not-welcome.html 2010-11-28 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-questions-that-are-not-welcome-a-flower-growing-from-cracked-stone-1600.webp The questions that are not welcome A small pink flower growing out of a narrow crack in weathered grey stone, a question that keeps asking itself in a place that has no room for it https://www.thebetterliving.org/why-we-stopped-asking-why.html 2010-09-19 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/why-we-stopped-asking-why-light-moving-through-a-human-head-1600.webp Why we stopped asking why Strands of luminous colour moving through the outline of a human head, the habit of questioning that is quietly taught out of every child https://www.thebetterliving.org/how-much-of-what-you-believe-did-you-choose.html 2010-07-04 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/how-much-of-what-you-believe-did-you-choose-threads-of-light-through-a-face-1600.webp How much of what you believe did you choose? Threads of amber light streaming through the outline of a human face, the beliefs poured into a person long before they could weigh any of them https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-layers-we-put-on-to-be-accepted.html 2010-04-25 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-layers-we-put-on-to-be-accepted-light-dissolving-into-darkness-1600.webp The layers we put on to be accepted Ribbons of pale light dissolving softly into the surrounding dark, a true self quietly covered over layer by layer in order to be accepted https://www.thebetterliving.org/living-on-the-surface.html 2010-02-14 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/living-on-the-surface-deep-blue-currents-in-darkness-1600.webp Living on the surface Slow currents of deep blue light moving far below the surface in darkness, the depth a life can hold and rarely visits https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-loneliness-that-has-nothing-to-do-with-people.html 2009-12-06 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-loneliness-that-has-nothing-to-do-with-people-stars-across-an-empty-sky-1600.webp The loneliness that has nothing to do with people Thousands of bright stars scattered across an immense empty sky, the loneliness that company cannot reach because it is not about company https://www.thebetterliving.org/why-we-say-we-are-fine.html 2009-09-27 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/why-we-say-we-are-fine-nebula-around-an-unlit-centre-1600.webp Why we say we are fine A teal and rose nebula glowing brightly around a completely unlit centre, the composed surface people offer when asked how they are https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-image-we-build-and-what-it-costs-us.html 2009-07-12 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-image-we-build-and-what-it-costs-us-veils-of-blue-light-1600.webp The image we build, and what it costs us Veils of pale blue light layered over one another in the dark, the polished image a person builds and then has to keep producing every day https://www.thebetterliving.org/what-do-our-achievements-actually-give-us.html 2009-04-05 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/what-do-our-achievements-actually-give-us-golden-vortex-around-an-empty-centre-1600.webp What do our achievements actually give us? A golden vortex of light turning around an empty dark centre, achievements that never once touched the heart of the person who built them https://www.thebetterliving.org/the-emptiness-that-came-after-everything.html 2009-01-18 yearly 0.8 https://www.thebetterliving.org/assets/img/the-emptiness-that-came-after-everything-starfield-around-a-dark-void-1600.webp The emptiness that came after everything A dense field of stars encircling a wide region of empty darkness, the hollow feeling that arrives after everything wanted has been achieved https://www.thebetterliving.org/privacy.html 2020-01-07 yearly 0.3 https://www.thebetterliving.org/terms.html 2020-01-07 yearly 0.3